Jeanne's Ramblings

Dating Etiquette

Last year I did a review for Peter Pauper Press and I thought I would share a little from one of the items I reviewed since it’s the month of LOVE, a page from….. 

‘The Little Pink Book of Etiquette, by Ruth Cullen’…..

Courtesy is as much a mark of a gentleman as courage. -Theodore Roosevelt

Uh, yeah. I’ll call you.
Dating is much like interviewing for a job.  You clean yourself up, put your charming, witty self on display, and then wait for something to happen.  And your good manners can make all the difference when it comes to scoring the job or second date.

The foremost rule of dating concerns cold, hard cash.  As a general rule, the person who asks for the date pays for the date.  Although you may wish to split the bill by choice, as someone else’s date you are not required to do so.

When the date is underway, do not ask for doggie bags, talk about exes, or receive cell phone calls- especially on first dates.  You’ll have plenty of opportunities later in the relationship to ignore your companion and make a pig of yourself. 

Now here’s the tricky part.  Though convenient and tempting, it’s never a good idea to say you’ll call or e-mail when you know you won’t.  When possible, be direct so that you avoid setting false expectations for someone else.  Mature or direct types may have no trouble calling it like they see it:  ‘Though I don’t think we’re a match, Tito, I enjoyed meeting you and wish you all the best.  Buh bye.’  More times than not, however, our actions speak louder than our words.  It may seem rude or cowardly, but when you don’t have the heart to tell someone how you really feel (‘I can’t get past your mullet.’), and you try to spare their feelings by hoping they get the message some other way (you move to Toledo), you’re actually showing them courtesy and respect.

If they don’t read your signals (you’re never home, or you’re very busy, or you have malaria, or the like) then give them time.  If they’re still calling two years later and lurking outside your workplace, then call the police.

I thought this was insightful and funny.  What are your thoughts?  Have you done any of these things before?

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February 11, 2010 - Posted by | Peter Pauper Press, Rambling, Valentine's Day

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